one thing i hate… i should say…what really annoys me is people who don’t name their babies straight away…
i don’t mean people who don’t tell you the name beforehand, that’s private between mom and dad…i mean people who have their babies and then say they aren’t sure what they will name them!! i actually knew someone who had amnio at 16-20 weeks, whatever it is, so they KNEW it was a boy and then took a week or so after he was born to name him…WTF?
apparently things have gone a bit the other way…i know this article is about celebrities but it seems like with everyone knowing what they are having have you heard this “early” naming??
my grumpy old woman feeling is simple~~ you get pregnant, okay if you want to know what you are having and take ALL the surprise out of it, that’s your choice BUT~~~ after you have the baby…
it’s called an announcement: you let your family and friends know that you and baby are fine and provide simple details like…..
NAME, SEX, WEIGHT, DATE and TIME!!
have you ever seen all those cute cards at the shop? saying?
IT’S A GIRL! or IT’S A BOY!
i am somewhat superstitious and think early naming is actually a bit scary, in the tempting fate way…but if you must and most parents should/do have a name or a few names picked out by the time they get to the hospital..keep it a secret~~because i do like surprises!!
What’s in an (early) name?
The mother of Jude Law’s fourth child announced on Sunday that the new baby will be named Sophia – three months before she is expected to arrive. It was an unusual break from baby naming protocol. But why do names tend to be such a secret in the first place?
In the past few years, the celebrity name game has often been a waiting game.
Britney Spears left her fans hanging for six weeks before she revealed the name of her son Jayden James. Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck took a week to announce that they would call their second daughter Seraphina.
And Apple and Suri were both unveiled with much fanfare a day after their respective births.
But the wait for Sophia? None at all.
On Sunday, mother-to-be Samantha Burke’s lawyers released a statement to People magazine revealing that her daughter with Law would be named Sophia. The actual name may not have packed as much surprise as a moniker like Apple, but the timing did. Ms Burke, an American model, isn’t due until October.
She’s not the only October due-date with a name picked out, though. American reality TV couple Joshua and Anna Duggar – Joshua is the eldest child on the show 18 Kids and Counting – announced that they will call their first daughter Mackynzie Renee when she arrives.
And even for those outside of the spotlight, talking over possible names isn’t unusual.
“In the non-celebrity world, I’d say that it’s definitely a trend for people to discuss their name ideas at length before the baby comes along,” says Pamela Redmond Satran, author of the Brilliant Book of Baby Names and Cool Names for Babies. But often, people tend to keep the final choice a surprise until the last minute.
So why is there this tradition of secrecy? One reason is that parents-to-be don’t want to open up the naming conversation for debate, says Jennifer Moss, founder and CEO of Babynames.com.
“They don’t want reactions to the name,” she says. “It’s easier to announce it after the baby is born because it’s attached to a person and people are less likely to criticise it.”
Keeping the secret can make couples feel they are sharing something intimate, says Elaine Griffiths, editor of Prima Baby magazine.
“There is a sense that things can get too public these days,” she says, pointing out that new parents typically know the sex ahead of time and will often post scanned photos and share intimate details of the birth – or even conception – of the baby.
“Something like a name is a very personal thing,” she says. “People decide, ‘Well, ok, this is going to be our secret’.”
Sometimes the hush is also rooted in superstition, tradition or religion, Ms Satran adds. In the Jewish faith, for instance, parents are not supposed to prepare for the baby by purchasing furniture or choosing a final name until he or she has arrived.
“People don’t want to announce their good news or give it too soon,” she says. “They’re afraid they’re going to jinx things.”
Spotlight moves
And often, parents may simply want to reserve the right to change their minds.
“A lot of it does depend on what your baby actually looks like once he or she is here,” says Ms Griffiths. “Even if you do feel quite determined that you’re going to call your baby Sophia, if, for whatever reason, it doesn’t look like a Sophia, then you’re likely to change it.”
And if that spotlight moves on, those following the last three months of pregnancy may have less to look forward to, says Ms Satran.
“Announcing the name early on does make the arrival of the child a bit anti climatic,” she says, likening it to knowing the sex of the baby before it arrives. “A lot of people do still like that movie-worthy surprise.”
It’s not just celebrities who are playing this early name game, either. Jeanette Cutlack, a baker who lives in the Isle of Mull in Scotland, named her son Sam three months into her pregnancy.
“I discussed it with my mum and at the time there were two options,” she says, adding that the choice was between Sam and Ralph. “My mum is a bit of a bully, so she put down my second option. So I just kind of shrugged my shoulders.”
Ms Cultack, who says little Sam kicked the first time she called him by name, wasn’t worried about changing her mind. “In my heart he was a Sam and that’s what I knew it was going to be,” she says. “I’ve never met a bad Sam.
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